Dating a jewish man
I am a non-Jewish, who have fallen for a Jewish man, and he had recently told me that he is torn between his faith and continuing seeing me.
We are very compatible, share similar views on several topics, enjoy each other company. I do believe in God, but it is based on my own belief systems comprised of many religions. I could not say at this point if I would convert, but I think I would live with it for the rest of my life always wondering if he resents having to leave his faith to be with someone.
None of it means anything without commitment to Torah, the sine qua non of Judaism, which happens to explicitly forbid intermarriage (Deuteronomy 7:3).
Such Jewish commitment comes mainly from parental examples of commitment to eating exclusively kosher, strictly keeping Shabbat, study of and adherence to Torah and Halacha, and general primacy of all things that make Jews different from non Jews. Ha Shem promised it, and so far He has kept His promise (3000 years). Alright, I respect your right to have these views, but this is the most ridiculous thing I have ever read.
The next day, I delivered my father his traditional Sunday breakfast in bed. Later, in the kitchen, I baked cakes with my mother. And it was vitally important that my future husband feel the same. Related Article: Get Me to the Church on Time The Breakup It wasn’t so difficult after that.
“You should know,” she suddenly said, “we won’t be rude to him if you bring him here. I guess I never thought that far,” he admitted, somewhat ashamed. “Look, if, as you say, you are definitely not going to marry the guy, then why on earth would you keep dating him? A short, tense phone call ended what would have been the mistake of a lifetime.
I was sitting firmly in the driver’s seat with mine, so much so that I became the leader of a Zionist youth movement, and started to mix with an idealistic new crowd. Things were getting serious, but I was ignoring the ramifications, because, you remember, I was not going to marry out.
Jewish day school, Jewish friends, a traditional Jewish home, Jewish holidays, Jewish ancestors, Jewish "culture", Jewish "values"...I was so connected to my Jewish identity that my betrayal of it was not even statistically probable. I stopped socializing with them in silent protest, after a more outspoken effort had failed.I self-righteously concluded that we had nothing in common, since they were prepared to give their Jewish identity the backseat.We are a people not because we make choices, but because we are chosen, and because there is the One who made and keeps that choice. The surest way to a happy marriage and beautiful children is to follow the Torah's guidelines. I'm sure everyone that reads is here to learn and understand more about Judaism. As another comment pointed out, even the author describes breaking Mitzvot, but intermarriage is one that is maintained/observed. We have to make our own journey of Tefillah, Teshuvah and Tzedakah. It would have been more understandable had you been their son. In my experience, it is easy to meet non-Jewish people since they outnumber us, Jews being maybe 1% of the population.The Torah is an instructions book on how to maximize the gift of life. For some some women, like me, I choose not to wear pants (dress like a man). I notice you don't talk about being happy from that point on - only duty. What I observed in my experiences, was that I never attracted a non-Jew with whom I had more in common nor admired more than the Jewish ones.