Guys dating big girls
Of course, I tried to act like it was intentional — like I just didn't see the point in wasting my time on all those Forked River-ites who wore too much Billabong and burped their ABCs (it was a fascinating revelation that they even knew their ABCs).But the reality was that I didn't really feel like I could date. So many women are out there that are on the bigger side, and so many of them always act so ashamedly about it. There's a line, of course: there's a place where big, actually becomes BIG, but that's not what I'm talking about here.I didn't date for a long time — far longer than [I think] is considered usual or acceptable amongst teenagers and twentysomethings. I guess it would've been nice to have company at all those miserable, Katy-Perry-fueled homecoming dances or yes, the prom.It would've been nice to not feel like the other when it came to exploring my sexuality (something I just didn't do).They have the kind of vibe that says they can take care of themselves just fine, and they don't need a man to take care of them.Of course, they're still going to be needy up to a point -- they're women after all, and pretty much every woman is needy to a certain extent. Well, yeah, I did, and they are, but big women are a little less needy than most. It can take them hours and hours to get ready to go out, and they're always talking about clothes, getting their nails done, and all of that stuff that drives guys totally nuts.
It was more that I was taught that a woman (especially a fuller-figured and tall woman) must only date a man who was even more fuller-figured and taller than she was.
These days, I love being the big spoon in the relationship and feeling like I am Paddy's teddy bear. This one tends to come from women who are actually quite strong, feminist role models and personal inspirations of my own.
And I never feel unsafe or unprotected, emotionally or physically, due to our size difference. And so, it's all the more proof that this [quite frankly] nonsensical gender role is one engrained in all of our minds, at least to an extent.
You don't have to worry about taking care of a big girl; they take care of themselves.
A lot of guys out there just want someone to take care of and protect, but if you're dating a big girl, you might find that it might be the other way around.